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5 Types of Behavior Charts To Use With Your Child

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Sticker Chart/Reward Chart

A sticker chart (or reward chart) is a very simple type of behavior chart that works well with younger children.  Basically, anytime a child performs a specific behavior (i.e., using the toilet, picking up his/her toys, going to bed on time, etc.) the child gets a sticker to add to his/her chart.  Once the sticker chart is filled, the child can trade in the sticker chart for a special object or privilege.

Chore Chart

A chore chart is essentially a behavior chart that tracks whether or not a child or teen has completed his/her chores for the day or week.  Often times, the child or teen can earn special privileges for completing the tasks that are listed on the chore chart.  Parents should make sure that the chores listed on the chore chart are age-appropriate and are not too overwhelming or difficult to complete. 

Hygiene Chart

Hygiene charts are an effective way to get children and teens to complete their daily hygiene tasks.  These tasks might include daily showers (or every-other-day), teeth-brushing, hair-combing, wearing of clean clothes, using deodorant, fingernail-clipping, face-washing, etc.  Hygiene charts don’t typically have a reward associated with completion – but they can.  Hygiene charts are more often used as a “checklist” of sorts to assure everything is taken care of.

Feelings Chart

Feelings charts can take many forms and can be used with various age groups for various reasons.  For younger children, a feelings chart can help them to identify various feelings that they might experience throughout the day or week – feelings that they might not otherwise be able to articulate.  For teens, a feelings chart is a good way to track and record feelings throughout the day, week, or month. 

Behavior Chart

Behavior charts are very similar to reward charts – only they are more appropriate for older children and teens.  Rather than earning stickers for positive behavior, the child or teen earns points or “checkmarks” for positive behavior.  There is almost always a reward/consequence aspect to behavior charts. Kids usually earn rewards for positive behavior and consequences for negative behavior.

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Behavior Management Tips for Parents

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Behavior management is crucial to positive and effective parenting.  To manage behavior effectively, parents should start out by adhering to a few simple guidelines:

Maintain composure while parenting – especially while disciplining.

Losing one’s ability to remain cool means that there are now two people in need of intervention.

Know when to act and when to ignore specific behaviors.

Rule of thumb: If it is dangerous, illegal, or immoral, then act.  If it is simply annoying or disruptive – ignore.  Ultimately, it is up to the parent to decide how (or if) to respond.

Provide structure and consistency.

Without these two elements in place, children will feel anxious and uncertain.  This may also make them want to “test the waters.”

Set firm boundaries and clear expectations.

Behavior management is next to impossible without these two factors in place.

Make sure consequences are administered swiftly.

The quicker the consequence, the bigger the impact on the child receiving it.

Use behavior management to teach, not to control.

Behavior management is not about exerting power and control over a child – it is about redirecting and teaching.

Sure, behavior management is not always as easy as this list might lead you to believe – but these six pieces of advice are a good place to start. 

Parenting can be a daunting task.  It is often a challenging, exhausting, and thankless job.  It is important to remember, however, that it is perhaps the most important role you will ever have.  The ability to manage behavior in a firm, calculated manner takes confidence, insight, and know-how.  Parenting is a game of trial and error.  Some behavior management techniques may work well with some children – but not with others.  Keep trying – don’t get discouraged!

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For My Daughters: Is Your “Friend” Actually a “Good Friend?”

friendshipOver the last few years, my two daughters have entered into a handful of new friendships with a number of classmates, neighbors, teammates, and other “associates.”  Some of those friendships have stood the test of time (at least so far) and others have not.

So, what exactly is it that determines whether or not a particular friend should be elevated to the level of “good friend” or even “best friend?”

The answer to this question is probably best answered by asking further questions.  The answers are obvious and should be used to determine whether or not a friend is worth keeping…or if he/she should be kicked to the curb.

With that being said, here is a list of questions one should ask regarding a particular “friend:”

  1. Do you and your friend have anything in common?
  2. Does your friend “give” as much as she “takes?”
  3. Does your friend seem genuinely concerned about your feelings?
  4. Is your friend supportive?
  5. Does your friend encourage you to make good decisions?
  6. Is your friend a good listener?
  7. Can you confide in your friend?
  8. Does your friend “build you up” rather than “tear you down?”
  9. Is your friend honest and trustworthy?
  10. Is your friend tolerant and accepting of those that are “different” from her?
  11. Do you genuinely enjoy being around your friend?
  12. Do you ever get the feeling that your friend has taken advantage of you?
  13. Does your friend gossip about you to others?
  14. Does your friend “make fun” of others in an effort to be funny?
  15. Does your friend give off “positive vibes?”
  16. Does your friend ever pressure you to do things that you know aren’t right?
  17. Is your friend there for you always or is she simply a “fair-weathered” friend?
  18. Is your friend generous?
  19. Is your friend forgiving?
  20. Do you have a genuinely good time when you hang out with your friend?
  21. Does your friend have a positive outlook on life?
  22. Does your friend treat others with respect?
  23. Is your friend loyal? Will he/she stand by you through “thick and thin?”

So, how does your friend look to you now?  Has your opinion changed?  After answering these questions, is your friend worth keeping?