a constant fight

[fltwinmommy]

Hello,

My 7 year old daughter fights me on almost every aspect during the day.  From eating breakfast to getting dressed for school to doing homework after school to ~ well, you get the idea.  I'm going crazy.  She has always faught us on everything but lately it's gotten worse.  I try and give her choices to avoid the fight, but it always ends up being a fight.

Please, anyone have any ideas???  I'm so tired of fighting.  It breaks my hearts

[delaneigh]

I hear you.  It is frustrating to fight with your child at any age.  It is so obvious to us that we make decisions in their best interest - why can't they just see that?  How is the behaviour contract working?  How about the list of responsibilities?  What kind of support do you have to reinforce good behaviour and discourage bad behaviour?

[Mayer C]

I would suggest that you use the behavior management contracts in the package sent via email. After viewing it, it seems very appropriate in this case. I would also suggest that you set up a token economy system with your daughter. I hope this helps. Best of luck.

[ZenMom]

I agree with the two comments above 

[72chelle]

Children love the reward system< I did this or I did that what is my reward for doing.  It works the same with bad behavior, provide her with a demerit system.

[attaite09]

o_O.

Its bad enough that there is even a fight. Pulling a knife?

Is it very common to have fights in school? Never really saw one before from where I am.

[attaite09]

Its driving me nuts For days now all of the girls on my fight list have been the same. Same names and the all ove 320 and 350 sisters. Its impossible to win against them Any ideas on whats going on?? Im lvl 64 with 460 sisters

[newhope]

Are you giving in to your 7 year old in most cases?  If you are you are missing the benefits of consistency.  No parent is 100% consistent  but being so as much as possible does work.  If you give in you basically have to start all over.  Do you reward good behavior?  If she sees the benefits of doing what she is supposed to do she may begin to replace poor behavior with positive. Random acts of praise are recognized. Does she have the same problems at school? I would start with taking her to her Dr. to rule out medical before attempting to change a behavior.  If there is a medical problem she will not be able to make the necessary changes.  Brain development starts at the stem and by about the age of 24 it is developed in the front of the brain where processing and reasoning skills form.  That is why they don't always make what we as adults that are supposed to at any rate make the best decisions because biologically they are not yet equiped.  However, we as parents have the task of showing them right from wrong along the way and once they become adults they will have the tools and the brain development to put together.